Letting Go of Love

Relationships are one of the most important areas of our life and everybody wants to have companionship and be loved. Most of us enter into a relationship thinking it will there for life, focusing on building the foundations for a long-term plan and loving that person with everything you have. However, sadly it doesn’t always work out that way. But what happens when you know its really time to let go?

If you’re someone who has fully committed to your partner, you may initially feel denial when you start to see signs it’s not working. Maybe you’re just going through a bad patch, perhaps outside stress on your relationship is causing arguments? Most relationships are rarely smooth sailing and there’s always bound to be rocky times. It’s important to realise when it’s gone beyond rocky and you’re both walking down completely different paths. Understanding the signs that show your relationship may never heal is vital, or you might be facing years of unhappiness.

Of course, so many factors can influence whether a relationship works or not. Perhaps you are not giving your partner as much time as you did before, perhaps you’re not being loving and caring when they need you to be, and vice versa – if your partner is not being attentive, then you may feel rejected and unhappy. The ‘drifting apart’ can happen slowly and it feels like suddenly one day you realise your relationship has completely changed.

If both of you realise that your relationship is falling apart and you both recognise this and want to make things better, then this is the first step to healing your relationship. Plan special time together, show appreciation for each other and make a conscious effort to get back the love and respect you once had.

If one partner isn’t willing to recognise there’s an issue, then this could be a one-sided effort that will never work. This kind of situation could potentially hurt more my prolonging the ending, causing frustration, disappointment and difficult emotions. If you recognise this situation, then maybe it’s time to let go. Moving on doesn’t mean you’ve given up on love, it simply means that you’ve identified a major problem which does not have equal effort to be fixed.

Remember, past relationships in our lives have taught us important lessons. We learn what we don’t want, we learn what we need, and we learn our boundaries in relationships. Moving on can take strength, but it could open new doors to not only personal healing and happiness, but also, eventually the potential of a new love which has mutual respect.